Excessive Self-Love

Self-love simply means to love your self.  When you love yourself, it means  you believe that you are worth it. Ever heard, how can you love other people if you don’t even love yourself? Total self-love and acceptance are the only foundation for happiness and love for others. You know why? Because no matter what people say about you, they won’t bring you down! According to a research, people with a high self-esteem tend to be more happy. Well, sounds very good, doesn’t it? But wait a minute! Don’t jump to a conclusion that self-love is good. Because it also can kill you, quite literally.

Are we doing more harm than good
People suggest that you don’t love other people too much.  Same thing with ourselves. There’s a moment when we cross the line, and we just love ourselves too much. It can make you become disrespectful to other people cause you think you’re just so perfect. We could lose our emphaty to others. People could tell by the way you talk, the way you walk and the way you use your body language. Perhaps you want to be confident, but instead you give people negative attitude. People that love themselves too much usually are craving for compliments from other people, that’s why they sometimes brag and exaggerate their achievements. It feels better for them when other people adore them. The worst part is, they won’t have the ability to view the world from others’ perspective.

Too much self-love will kill you
Have you ever heard of a story about a man who always thinks about himself. All he does is adoring his own self until he falls in love with his reflection on the river water. He finally dies because he falls into the water when he tries to kiss his reflection. You see what I mean? Giving yourself to much self-love can make you become arrogant. Therefore, it is very important to control your self-love.

Real love, real action.
The idea of “loving yourself” often seems cliché. Now think about it. What does that really mean? How do we know the difference between a self-love and a selfish love? What can we do practically to love ourselves in the right way?
•    Take care of your body.
•    Give yourself a little extra comfort.
•    Be grateful of what you receive in your life no matter how small it is.

We are want to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loveing others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.

- Paul Valery (French Poet, 1871-1945)